A sort of repeat from this thread, except I am looking for a larger vehicle. Budget can probably go up to 7k.
https://grassrootsmotorsports.com/forum/grm/budget-beater-with-a-heater-small-midsized-suv-qui/91076/page2/
This would be to use as a vacation hauler, tow vehicle (5000 pounds or so, most likely) and for driving on the beach with a bunch of beach stuff. 4x4, cargo room, reliability, and the ability to put 2 kayaks on top are driving factors. Heated seats (wife) is also apparently a requirement if we get rid of the Xterra. There would be no serious wheeling involved, probably the most it would ever see is a 2.5 trail, with the vast majority of time spent performing the above functions instead. As such, I probably don't need a solid front axle, and a regular Cherokee may be a bit too small, while a Suburban would be too big (my wife simply wouldn't want to drive it). It must be automatic.
I already have an Nissan Xterra, and it can probably perform everything I want it to. However, it is a bit rusty and has a lot of deferred maintenance to catch up on, and it has a constant draw on the battery that, if I am honest with myself, I will never be able to find. Additionally, it is a slug. I have been working on it is a catch-as-catch can proposition and I'm starting to get tired of it.
If I bail on the Xterra, I'm looking to get into something like I listed above. It seems 4Runners are universally more expensive than anything else, and Jeep quality being kind of hit or miss (based on personal experience). I know nothing about the Monteros besides what I read here, but there are a few third gens on Craigslist in the $2500 to $3000 range. Explorers are all over the map, but there are plenty of green ones available. Tahoes seem too expensive.
The net result is analysis paralysis.
Easy mode: Keep the Xterra and drive it until it rusts out.
Other option: Trade the known problems of the Xterra for somebody else's problem. Buy the best example of "X" I can find.
http://onslow.craigslist.org/cto/5262469139.html
http://raleigh.craigslist.org/cto/5263527154.html
http://raleigh.craigslist.org/ctd/5276623222.html