So to revisit this 8 months later. We still have the 4Runner, but my wife is growing more and more unhappy with it. Not that she doesn't like it(because she does), but mostly due to here ailments making it a hard vehicle to climb into, and it lacking the heated seats that she wants to help her with the soreness she lives with 24/7-365. She would really like to get a CUV, and we've narrowed our choices down to either a Mazda CX-5, Toyota Rav-4, or Mitsubishi Outlander PHEV. The PHEV is probably out as we can't really afford one, and they're so new in the USA that finding a used one seems to be impossible.
We've spoken to many dealers, and test driven probably 20 cars over the past few months. Kia's, Hyundai's, Toyota's, Mazda's, Mitsubishi's, Jeep's. Most dealers will give us anywhere from $29-30k for the 4Runner, and the lease payoff hovers around $33k. Not optimal for a trade, but doable to a point if it makes my wife happy. Now for said new to us vehicle I am looking in the $19-23k range on a used/certified car. There are plenty of choices in this range for cars that meet our criteria of being less than 50k miles, and have the equipment she/we want(heated seats are a must this time).
Now the dilemma is do we just bite the bullet, and eat the negative equity of roughly $3k on the Toyota with what we have saved as a down payment and finance the whole car. Or hold on to the 4Runner until the end(I love it!), and then turn it in, or buy it after the lease is up? The second option (riding the lease out) will probably cost $10k plus over the next 17 or so months whereas trading it in costs the $3k or so. The second option does allow us to put that $3k that we would have used on the negative equity as a good down payment on the used CUV that will lower our monthly payments. Holding the 4Runner isn't optimal as it would leave us with two car payments with the 4Runner being pretty high, but only for 18 months. I don't want two car payments, or I'd rather not two car payments that high. We went 5 or 6 years without a payment prior to the 4Runner lease.
At the end of the day I think we're getting a CUV as she has been all over me about getting her something that doesn't hurt to get into, gets reasonable fuel mileage, and that she can park with ease. I'd sure love to have the 4Runner compared to the 13 year old Sienna I'm driving now, but I don't love the payments. What would you guys do? FYI I've posted the 4Runner lease on Swap-a-lease, and have had a bunch of inquires, but the bank we're leasing through has made it difficult. Please don't beat me up too bad. I know that turning in a lease early is dumb, and maybe leasing it in the first place was idiotic, but I can't change that now. Also we are probably 2-3k miles under what we should have on the 4Runner as far as the lease allotment of 1k miles a month. I guess I learned to not go shopping for a new car when your other one has non-working A/C, and it is hot as balls out. That bad decision led to us leaving the dealership with a newly leased 4Runner that while awesome wasn't the right vehicle for what my wife wanted, but was exactly what I wanted. We're taking our time now, but I'm still not sure what is the right path to take.