In reply to edizzle89:
I was recently in a somewhat similar position except no third seat required.
Wanted: wagon but realistically there are so few offerings I decided a cuv would be easier to find for space, good fuel consumption, reliable, auto, comfy seats, good a/c heat, needed to fit at least one car seat. Wanted to pay less than $10k with my trade in.
I researched and then test drove the following:
2010 Mitsu Outlander ES 2wd- surprisingly good, had everything but had a cvt which was strange. Rear tailgate; bottom folds down like a pickup. Rear seats; back folds down flat or the whole seats moves partially into the footwell. Strong AC, comfy seats with nice soft yet tough material.
2012 Scion xb - thought it was bigger for some reason, it's not, it's too small.
2010 Toyota RAV4 2wd - similar to Outlander but not as comfortable seats, tailgate side opening was not practical for me. Rear seats move forward and backwards like front seats and fold down individually in three parts which is very useful. Decent power in 4 cyc, 4 speed auto. Interior was quite beat up, not sure if this is common or previous owner was rough on it.
2011 Mazda CX7 base - bit out of my price range but very nice. Solid feel, heavy doors, well insulated cabin, lots of electronic goodies, rear seats are big, trunk is not as big as outlander or rav. Outward visibility was not great. 4 cyc NA, auto 5sp was similar to rav and outlander.
Outlanders can have a third seat but only in the v6 I think. Not sure about the others.
Didn't try CRV, I thought they were over-priced. Mazda 5 looked very good but didn't get to try one.
I bought the Outlander. 46k miles, clean carfax, one owner, still has 1 year and 13k miles left on warranty.