SVreX, apparently my opinions are bothering you.
I would feel bad if i was in your house, instead of just out in the big bad public internet. Let me assure you, it is easier to listen to my opinion in spite of not wanting me in your forum space, than to get hit and killed by someone you didnt want in your driving space.
For my part, i find it irritating that if we were to offer advice to the deceased on how not to repeat his having been accidentally killed, the communal forum response would be "Shouldnt have had your wheels turned, dont you know they've been teaching that in driver's ed for 30 years?!" But we only care insofar as we are comfortable. If we weren't comfortable telling the guy to his face, we likely wouldnt have offered any of our superior knowledge at all. If the guy was 'merely' crippled for life and posted this story of his own accord, i find it doubtful that many people would be so quick with their internet prescriptions of "coulda, shoulda, woulda" or how they would have acted differently before, in their fantasy version, also going on to do many other things right and living happily ever after. Likewise, of those that ARE comfortable handing out their one-liner internet remedies in the absence of the victim, the full circumstances, and any possible response, i doubt that many of them spend the time to wonder how many of the people they care about would have made the same mistake. And of those who may have wondered, how many have gone out of their way to try to and offer their unsolicited advice to living people, IN PERSON, to try to preclude this one of the billions of ways to die? My guess (and i cant claim it is anything more than that) is something near zero. So for the most part, the posts in a thread like this arent about other people. They're not about educating the masses and making the world a safer place. It is (in my opinion), subconsciously, a venue for people to pat themselves on the back for thinking that something that they think they are doing right is keeping them alive. After all, being alive at the time of post-writing pretty much qualifies us to give advice on not having died yet, right? I mean, someone who has lived for 17 or 33 years has got to have more experience not dieing than, like, a one year old. We should all be asking 97 yr olds for driving advice! They haven't died, they must be experts!
I am not saying this is a useless effort. The people who say they have learned something, will no doubt use it whenever they remember to, and hopefully they do not die during one of the times when they do not remember it, as the dead guy in the story quite possibly knew, and forgot, himself. But what i really hope is that when they (we, all of us) DO die, that we dont spend our last moments thinking "damn, i shouldnt have turned my wheels, especially after all the time i spent reading that one thread!" or "damn, if only i'd gone seeking true driving skill and knowledge on the internet forums, i could have avoided this!" hah!
This is the part of the post where others in the thread have said "rant over" and "sorry for getting so high on my soapbox" without any reprisal, so maybe if it keeps people from coming after me i will do it too and say "End Rant". And i will also throw in the defensive qualifiers "Im not racist, BUT" and "one time when i was drunk", too. Maybe one of them will work.