Moral delimma

I have a "friend" who "allegedly" may have dented the door of his wife's car pulling out of the parking lot to go to work. Little crease right in the middle of the door. My "friend" went home at lunch and buffed out the paint mark. Not super obvious unless you're looking for it, but it's there. My "friend" may have given his wife a hard time about her parking and driveway navigation skills in the past to admitting to this error would cost a lot of face.

My "friend" figures his wife will not notice this dent for days. Maybe never. And when or if she does, he could play dumb and blame an anonymous stranger from a random parking lot. But then he will have to live with the guilt.

Did I mention, the "friend"s wife car in question is her prize '79 Porsche 911, driven only on sunny Sundays, not the kid-hauling beater.

You should own up to denting your wife's car door, and get it fixed. And stop picking on your wife's navigational skills.

lol

I wish your "friend" the best of luck. I would admit early, caught later will be worse.

If she's going to be cool about it, accept that sometimes these things happen, and appreciate that you're doing the right thing, then you do the right thing. If she's going to be a bitch about it, you keep your mouth shut.

Sounds like grounds for divorce to me. You should have hit the kid hauler.

Quick trip to paintless dent removal specialist?

In reply to Gearheadotaku: "Quick trip to paintless dent removal specialist?" Sounds like the plan. What she doesn't know won't hurt her... Isn't that what guys having affairs say too?

This is not a moral dilemma, unless by dilemma you mean 'I know what I should do but I dunwanna...".

Your worried she'll take your set of key's away arn't you? Just own up to it before getting it fix then fix it.

Toyman01 wrote: Sounds like grounds for divorce to me. You should have hit the kid hauler.

+1.......and don't EVER complain about her parking again.

Admission of Guilt is always better than caught hiding evidence.

44Dwarf wrote: Your worried she'll take your set of key's away arn't you? Just own up to it before getting it fix then fix it.

+1

Man up.

"Congratulations honey! We've just won a 2-week trip to (insert some place she wants to go)"

Then have a friend come over and get the car fixed while you're away and put it back before you do.

I'd man up and admit to it. Yeah, you'll get plenty of razzing probably for the rest of your life, but honesty is worth it. =)

maybe she'll just never notice. I couldn't even get an angle on the camera that made it obvious, but I see it every time I glance at the door with the naked eye.

How could your friend ever mount her again without thinking "I am a dirty rotten liar".

wae wrote: I'd man up and admit to it. Yeah, you'll get plenty of razzing probably for the rest of your life, but honesty is worth it. =)

I curbed a rim on my wife's 1-series cabrio. I've never curbed a rim in my life until then, and it was just lame. I 'fessed up immediately though, she was cool about it, and the wheel repair guys are just amazing.

Honesty is always the best policy.

I agree also with the above poster. You know the right thing to do here.

Gearheadotaku wrote: Quick trip to paintless dent removal specialist?

I read that as a "Quick trip to the panty-less dent removal specialist".

+1 for honesty though. Better to be in the doghouse for a day than a lot longer.

spitfirebill wrote: How could your friend ever mount her again without thinking "I am a dirty rotten liar".

A year ago I was walking by my wife's new (to her) Solara 'vert and scratched the clear coat with a pair of scissors sticking out of my pocket. I waxed it good and it disappears, but it comes back. I owned up to this and was madder at myself for doing it than she was.

you vere driving vay too fast!

There's nothing visible - just tell her. Make the lead up really dramatic. Send her a text - Honey, we need to talk later. If she brings it up when you get home, tell her I just can't talk about it now with a pained expression on your face. Drag it out, making her bring it up a few times, before finally and painfully admitting that you touched the door of her car with your bumper - there's no damage, but you are wracked with guilt over it and had to tell her. A tear or two wouldn't hurt. She'll be grateful it's nothing important and let it go.

Karma's a bitch.

I'd have recommended owning up immediately, or at minimum once I'd buffed it. I walloped the LH front fender on my wife's '97 Civic on the 5' high snowbank at the end of our driveway some years ago. I admitted guilt immediately, and that I had just spent the previous 3 hours creating that very snowbank with my own sore back and a snow shovel went a long way to buying some mercy.

Plus, a snow bank leaves no scratches, so it reshaped back to fender in an hour's work once it warmed up a few months later.

Honesty should be a lot more important than a Porsche.

Is that a Targa? Then I wouldn't worry about it...

That's horrible. The car is totaled. The right thing to do is take the entire car apart and build a coupe RSR clone.

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