I have a 2004 4runner V8 limited with Xreas. 101,128 miles. I have the Daystar spacer lift. 2.5/1.5 with 265/70/17 Cooper AT3's. Its the look and the tiny bit of lift you want. I havent yet but I would tow anywhere with it just the way it is. I bought it for that reason, and could not ruin it with too much lift. It serves as my Girlfriends daily driver. Gets us low mid 20's unloaded and has taken us wheeling is some pretty nasty places and didnt even flinch.
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