If you don't have a copy "secrets of solo racing" get one.
Next probably the biggest over aggressive habit is the brakes or more importantly how you come off the brakes, if you are a abruptly popping off the brake pedal it instantaneously unloads the front end, Trail braking is your friend.
In spots where trail braking isn't used make sure you are not popping off the brake pedal and then winding on the steering......the front end is in the air and doing nothing. The easiest way to figure out if you are doing this is think about your corner entry, does the car start to point in towards the apex but wash slightly wide then as you come though the apex and pick up the throttle the car feels bound up and then you get snap power oversteer? Heavy braking buries the nose of the car and lifts the rear so as the driver winds the wheel in the car snaps into the turn, leading said driver to believe the car is turning and so they pop off the brake unloading the front end, the car washes wide so the driver winds on more steering, just as the car comes through the apex the front end scrubs enough speed to grip/turn and unloads the back just as the throttle is being picked up so the back steps out and as the driver unwinds the wheel to catch the back the front unloads enough that it starts washing and the car does a lovely 4 wheel wash across the pavement......if all this sounds remotely familiar work on how you release the brakes.
As an example of aggressive smooth technique the first one I can think of is in slaloms/Chicago boxes or other spots with rapid transitions is using the spring wind up to rapidly change directions, think of getting the car to do an intentional tank slapper or the rally Scandinavian flick.
For sections with long straights we may late apex the preceding corner to get a good drive, at the other end if there is a series of tight corners then using an early apex and late braking would allow you to stay on the gas longer, if you throw away the following corner it doesn't matter because the time lost was eclipsed by the gain on the straights.
One of the things our courses seem to have is a chicane before the finish, if there isn't at least 50ft before the lights I will over cook the chicane because getting a drive out of the chicane doesn't matter.
As for course memory the easiest thing to do is only worry about the sections that aren't drive it as you see it. If the slalom cones are equally spaced then the only worry is which side you want to enter so don't expend any extra brain power beyond that. Also do not get wrapped in remembering cones that do not matter; for instance when exiting a corner the only cone that matters is the outside one. Same thing for the apex, there is only one cone that matters.......basically there only three cones per corner that you care about.
Finally learn to open up your vision if you haven't already, you don't need to look at every cone. A simple eye exercise is to put your right hand up next to your face and wiggle your index finger, at the same time extend your left arm straight out in front of your nose and wiggle your index finger, while do thing this focus an object across the room......notice you can see all three things at once. Your right index finger is the turn in, the left index is the apex and the object across the room is the exit. This exercise keeps you from target fixing which tends to lead to jerky inputs.
Tom
(I edited to make it easier to read because it was great advice and I wanted to read it closely...thanks Tom!)