In reply to SKJSS (formerly Klayfish) :
Thanks! Yeah honestly the two that stick out to me the most are the fit and the e90 in different way. The e90 was by far the most comfortable, composed, and capable feeling with torque on demand and it felt predictable but insulating. Definitely would be the best road trip car.
The fit just felt engaging. It just wanted me to feel things and do things. It wanted to rev, it told me so much info about the steering and the brakes. It was more engaging than the ek civic which really surprised me.
I really want to drive a proper 8th gen si, not the E36 M3ty one I drove. Can't find one near me to test drive.
Cars yet to drive: mazda2, g35, decent civic si. Might try a golf GTI because I really like the r32. The vag reliability seems tenuous but my sister has an i5 Jetta (mk5 golf years) that is basically the same platform and that was zippy and fun. Not as engaging as the fit, r32, or mini though.
I wish I could get a combination of the feel of the fit, the cornering ability of the e90 (took corners way too fast for my comfort), and the fear factor of the r32.
I feel like if the e90 were a bit less insulated, I'd like it. But in each of these cars I missed the responsive, connected feeling of the fit? How does it manage to have such a good and tight steering feel and responsive/ engaging pedal box?
The other conclusion is that honestly I'd be happy in any of them. They had their difference and I have my preferences, but they were all really fun to drive and cool to boot. And I really liked different things about them all.
Important note, I only drove the fit around a parking lot so I'd need to drive it on the street to see if I'd like it. I liked the feel and responsive nature of all the inputs, but it is the slowest here and I might feel the lack of power on a road