I didn't read through this, but I'll give my personal experience.
My 2002 WRX Wagon has around 182k and I don't think the motor has ever been cracked open. With "Stage 2" mods, the car takes a pretty good beating, barely uses any oil and gets great gas mileage. I have a buddy that also has a 2002 Wagon, but has modded his for straight line performance. The original bottom end made it over 230k before it popped, seeing numerous turbo upgrades and other mods and I believe making near or over 400HP. I've had other friends make it over 200k on 2.0's as well.
The 2.5 has been another story...
I have a friend that has a mildly modded '06 WRX, who barely drives the car hard EVER. Even with a good tune, the car blew the 4th cylinder rings right around 100k.
I have another friend that owned a 2004 Forester XT with the 2.5 and didn't have a pleasant experience. He bought the car with around 110k and it used a good amount of oil from the time he bought it. A newish TD04 helped somewhat, but it still went through it at a much higher rate than my 2.0 car. One day, he was racing something after work, when the plastic end tank on his radiator decided to blow (common issue). The temp gauge spiked for about a second, but even after replacing the radiator the car spewed white smoke as if the minor spike had blown a headgasket. He got rid of it before figuring out what was wrong, mostly because he was sick of working on it.
I've also had numerous friends blow rings in STi's even barely modded.
The other annoying thing about the 2.5 turbo motors, is the "air pump" issues they get. I can't remember exactly what they are for, but there are air pumps for something having to do with cold start emissions. When they go bad, they trip the CEL, which for some reason annoyingly disables the cruise control. Subaru recognizes the issue, and I believe there is a TSB. I know that back in the day Subaru would fix them free of charge, as long as you pay for the parts, which totaled a pretty penny IIRC (Maybe $600?). Otherwise, you can remove them and get block off plates, but then have to disable the CEL's with tuning somehow. It seemed like enough of a headache to turn me away from an otherwise nice 2006 Wagon that cost over double what I paid for my '02.
IMO, look for a nice unmolested 2.0 car, get rid of the catted uppipe and keep up on changing the trans fluid, and watch for rust on the neck of the coolant tank infront of the turbo and you'll have a solid fun car.