...because I need to be reminded myself.
In addition to running on very little sleep–because our foster kid barely slept last night–I also seem to have developed an ear infection.
Both are making it really difficult to finish the normal amount of work I can get done in a day, and I've been beating myself up all day.
Thankfully, lunch gave me a few minutes to reset, and so I'm using this post to remind myself (and anyone else who needs to hear it), that I am one person and I am doing my best–ruminating on my mistakes will get me nowhere.
Now time for another cup of coffee.
Being kind to yourself can also mean taking some time for self care. Go lie down, Colin--we're not curing cancer today.
Margie
Yep, tap out and we’ll fight another day (or something like that).
In reply to Colin Wood :
You're doing great all things considered. Like I always tell my middle child, who seems to work herself up at bedtime, "tomorrow is a new day."
84FSP
PowerDork
6/19/24 3:22 p.m.
Glad to see some more foster parents in the house. Take care of your selves and that helps you take care of those kiddos.
Marjorie Suddard said:
We're not curing cancer today.
I said this exact thing to myself at lunch. Part of the motivator for making this post.
Luckily, I'm starting to feel a bit better.
Scotty Con Queso said:
In reply to Colin Wood :
"tomorrow is a new day."
I'm big on this mantra.
An alternative I've also said to myself after a rough day: "You never have to live this day again."
Good advice here. Thanks.
Take it easy folks! I remind myself of my limitations with the following:
"grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference"
When the oxygen masks fall out of the overhead, you're supposed to put yours on first, and then deal with the children you would willingly sacrifice your life for.
It's counterintuitive, but it ultimately makes sense, and it works.
Also, people who don't sleep and have lots of stress and get ear infections could probably use a little more Vitamin D every day, Florida sunshine or not. Just sayin'.
Good night. We'll be here tomorrow.
Brother, the world will still spin without your help. Go have a beer or a Sarsaparilla in your shop or what ever happy place you have. If you need a hug I am in New Hampshire (I'm into virtual hugs too as needed).
Colin Wood said:
...because I need to be reminded myself.
In addition to running on very little sleep–because our foster kid barely slept last night–I also seem to have developed an ear infection.
Both are making it really difficult to finish the normal amount of work I can get done in a day, and I've been beating myself up all day.
Thankfully, lunch gave me a few minutes to reset, and so I'm using this post to remind myself (and anyone else who needs to hear it), that I am one person and I am doing my best–ruminating on my mistakes will get me nowhere.
Now time for another cup of coffee.
Mid-apex is not the time to be focusing on mistakes you made at corner entry... Save that for the next lap. Focus on corner exit and the NEXT corner, not the last!
/instructor-mode off
This is a cheesy story but holds true.
Once upon a time, there were two woodcutters named Peter and John. They were often at loggerheads over who chopped more wood. So one day, they decided to hold a competition to determine the winner. The rules were simple—whoever produce the most wood in a day wins.
So the next day morning, both of them took up their positions in the forest and started chopping away in their fastest possible speed. This lasted for an hour before Peter suddenly stopped. When John realized that there was no chopping sound from his opponent’s side, he thought: “Ah Ha! He must be tired already!” And he continued to cut down his trees with double the pace.
A quarter of an hour passed, and John heard his opponent chopping again. So both of them carried on synchronously. John was starting to feel weary when the chopping from Peter stopped once again. Feeling motivated and smelling victory close by, John continued on, with a smile on his face.
This went on the whole day. Every hour, Peter would stop chopping for fifteen minutes while John kept going relentlessly. So when the competition ended, John was absolutely confident that he would take the triumph.
But to John’s astonishment, Peter had actually cut down more wood. How did this even happen? “How could you have chopped down more trees than me? I heard you stop working every hour for fifteen minutes!”, exclaimed John.
Peter replied, “Well, it’s really simple. Every time I stopped work, while you were still chopping down trees, I was sharpening my axe.”
Fellow foster dad here, those first few adjustment weeks are hard on everyone. You're doing a great thing and you're excelling at it by even just trying. 'This too, shall pass' and 'just keep swimming' are my go-to favorite phrases for when I'm out over my skis and am finding it hard to manage.
In reply to Colin Wood :
Another one is:
Your track record for making it through bad days is currently at 100%
