Wish it were for something happy but this is were I focus my energy these days.
Whenever I feel down the GRM gang always cheers me up. Thanks to everyone for helping me get through this. And before this, my divorce. You all rock!
Bob
(I'm pretty sure the answer to this all lies somewhere in my Miata)
good luck with things, sorry to hear about how bs you have had to deal with in all this.
Keep the pressure on the bastards. Elder care is an area that we should all be ashamed of. I faced similar challenges when I found my mother(Alzheimers) badly bruised and claiming one of the attendants hit her looking for money. The administration denied any problems, and oversight was a joke. We moved her to a different facility. Eventually one of the attendants was arrested and sentenced for robbing the patients, and the administrator was fired because it turned out there had been many similar complaints, with no action taken.
sorry for your loss. My grandmother had alzheimers, and was being "cared" for at Gransha hospital in Derry City in '94. Well, she got a new doctor who thought she was doing so well on her meds that she didn't need them anymore. Within two months her condition deteriorated rapidly and she died, age 84. Pretty good innings, but such a penny pinching crock of a way to go out. 
I am sorry to hear what happened to you. that really sucks.
Friend of mine was a CNA at a local Nursing home for ten years. He got fired after a piece of equipment he was using to move a patient broke and dropped the poor man.
It was not my friend's fault, but they scapegoated him good to avoid problems with the family. This was a guy who had a stack of thankyou letters from families and comendations from the place itself.
Unfortunately, nursing homes are not worth a dime. The have simply become a place to dump people to die. and that is just how they are run.
Volunteering at a nursing home for the past six years, this does not surprise me at all. The one I am at is probably one of the worst in terms of quality of the actual building, but the care is ranked the highest in the state or near it. We get some "transfers" from other nursing homes, and the stories I have heard are scary.
For anyone with a relative in a nursing home or hospice, I cannot stress this enough: VISIT. It works wonders for their mental health, they need to know they are loved.
yes yes.. Visiting is the BEST thing you can do. Not only does it do wonders for your loved ones.. but it keeps the staff on their toes knowing you will be in on a semi-regular basis.
My mom worked as an activities director a couple of nursing homes. What she did with no budget and a lot of donated supplies was amazing.
She told me one story of an older couple. She went into the home due to medical problems and he would come in and spend 8 hours a day with her. When the place went into lockdown for a week due to a nasty infection, he would spend those 8 hours outside her window.
Nursing homes are strange. We deliver pizzas to the four or five local ones, and none of the employees ever tip. It just doesn't happen. Some of these are also assisted living places, also. The residents, on the other hand usually tip, though.
Joey
Sadly last year I had to put my dad in an adult foster care place last year. The real kicker is I live on the other side of the state so I can't visit except for every few months when I can make it over there.
Fortunately the place he is at is very good, they home cook all his meals (I walked in during meal time once and oh man I wish I could have checked myself in), its in their own home so there are only 5 people they are taking care of at most. Also my dad's friend goes and visits quite often and he can make them miserable if he thinks dad is not getting treated right.
Sorry about your situation, its a tough one to be in.
Sorry to hear that, but good luck with it.
That's such a sad story, I'm sorry for your loss.
I am also sorry to hear of the unfortunate circumstances of your mother's death. I wish you the best and my thoughts are with you.
My condolences on the loss of your mother.
Stay on them; elder care is a real problem in our society.
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