If you love someone

To everyone out there don't take love for granted. Because if you do you may screw up so bad that it's not fixable regardless of how you feel. And that will be the worst pain you ever experience if you love someone, never fail to show them or let your pride get in the way. And if you do screw up take responsibility immediately and fix it right then don't wait. This might seem like common sense but it happens more often that anyone would like to admit.

Tru DAT. Almost found myself divorced because I took my wife and her love for granted. Never again.

I'm voting all this up.

Don't take anyone you love for granted.

Trust but verify. If you put all your emotional eggs in your spouses basket. You're asking for misery and heartache if and when they decide to move on without you, regardless of whether you showed them your love every day or not.

BTDT

Always kiss and make up.

volvoclearinghouse wrote: Always kiss and make up.naked

FTFY

KyAllroad wrote: Trust but verify. If you put all your emotional eggs in your spouses basket. You're asking for misery and heartache if and when they decide to move on without you, regardless of whether you showed them your love every day or not. BTDT

This. I've seen too many people (mostly men) let themselves get completely screwed over. If you're not providing that lovin feelin, someone else probably is.

KyAllroad wrote: Trust but verify. If you put all your emotional eggs in your spouses basket. You're asking for misery and heartache if and when they decide to move on without you, regardless of whether you showed them your love every day or not. BTDT

Ehh, sounds like a way to have one foot out the door on your own and end up sabotaging the relationship.

Love with all your heart, open yourself up to hurt or you're not living life to its fullest.

I'm with dculberson.

The only way to fully love, is to go all in. It includes risk, and vulnerability.

I've taken my wife for granted, and she's done it to me too. It's awful.

But the pain has taught us how to forgive, and there is no love better than love that includes deep forgiveness.

The areas in which I held back and refused to trust her became the areas in which I hurt her.

we spent a couple of years in marriage counseling to get over taking each other for granted, as well as communication issues. remember: women may speak English, but the dictionary is different. im not proud that I couldn't fix things myself, but the brain that got me into that mess could not get me out.

im truly grateful; for that time, as our marriage has never been better. not only is she my wife, but also my best friend. yes, she hurts me sometimes, but usually due to me not communicating my half that well. and vice versa. we work through it and make things better.

Michael

SVreX wrote: I'm with dculberson. The only way to fully love, is to go all in. It includes risk, and vulnerability. I've taken my wife for granted, and she's done it to me too. It's awful. But the pain has taught us how to forgive, and there is no love better than love that includes deep forgiveness. The areas in which I held back and refused to trust her became the areas in which I hurt her.

^^^^^^ this^^^^^^

Without risk there is no gain nor is there any loss. I will take that risk, I believe love is best done all the way or not at all. With that in mind it hurts like a bitch when it bites you but it also makes it worth it when it works.

Married 23 years and still learning stuff.

Being married to the woman you love is good. Being married to a roommate is bad. Wound up with the latter due to complacency and a lack of understanding of how nature programs men and women for attraction.

Though it's hard accepting YOU are part of the problem, the upside is that once you do you can change. You can't force the other person to change or be attracted to you. Coming up on my one year anniversary of the new me, and am in a much happier place. Still not where I want it to be, but it's a work in progress.

Marrying Mrs. Volvoclearinghouse was the best thing I ever did in my life. The second best thing was waiting to get married (I was 34 when we said our vows).