Out of prying curiosity, anything come of this yet?

Another loophole question: Did you verify that he and the step-mom were officially married? I know a lot of people living in a "married" relationship that never got the paperwork in order. Just sayin.

mtn wrote: Out of prying curiosity, anything come of this yet?

Nothing official. My wife and her sister had several hours of conversation and decided that the basic approach would be to contact FIL and his wife (mainly his wife, since she is now making his legal decisions via the POA she got him to grant her) and present our standpoint as follows:

1) We think this is against FIL's wishes (based on discussions we had with him a few months prior to the change) and we intend to fight it.

2) We're willing to take our chances in court. We think we have a pretty strong case because FIL has a dementia diagnosis for at least a year predating the change. His understanding of the change is also not the same as what the change actually is (based on our discussion with him when his wife announced the change to us).

3) Or there's a third option, which is we all behave like adults and sit down at a table with counsel and come to some mutually-agreeable compromise, instead of a lawsuit.

My SIL went and visited him over the past weekend and we have a message from her that there will be further changes to the will. I don't have any details yet because we haven't connected with her yet.

As far as the validity of the marriage; I never asked. It's possible they are not. However, I can't see his wife letting a detail like that get past her.