Disclaimer, I'm not intereted in moving, but I've had this conversation a few times now and I always feel like I'm ignorant to the specifics.
My town of Flagstaff AZ has very high priced housing, in general, relatively low paying jobs for the region, but most jobs pay better than in the mid-west or east-coast regions.
When interest rates were low, most middle-class folks could beat rental rates as long as they bought something sensible and had a good down payment. I have many friends who bought between 2016-2021 and nabbed those Sub-3% rates, and even paying way too much for a small house, secured monthly payment of less than $2000/month.
One huge benefit is that our property taxes are CHEAP. My home, bought for $370k, now worth about $550k, has a tax bill of around $1600.
All in all, our monthly payment is about $1650 a month with taxes and insurance escrowed.
I've met some folks recently who have bought since 2021, and they are much less enthusiastic about their purchases. They paid much higher prices per square foot and of course got stuck with the higher rates too. I met a family who paid $550k for a home much smaller than mine, but their monthly mortgage is nearly twice what I pay.
They are from the same area where I grew up, Ohio/Pennsylvania, and asked "have you ever considered moving back home in order to have a much larger house for less money?" Truthly, while some aspects of this are appealing, I'm a bit worried about the paycut I'd take to do so, and I'd lose my 5 weeks of vacation and pension too. This family was also nervous about the pay cut - he's a mechanic making the best money of his life and actually enjoying working for his employer, and he doesn't want to give that up just for a bigger/cheaper house.
Then there is the difference in property taxes too.
Cleveland, OH, for example, has much higher property taxes. A home selling for around $200k would have nearly a $6000 tax bill. Even if they could use their equity to halve the loan on such a house, they'd pay $500 a month in property taxes. Still cheaper, but certainly not free.
I'm curious on how this works out for most people, especially those who one or both income earner took pay cuts to chase cheaper housing?