Post divorce, when you are chasing women again, do you guys say "divorced," or "single" when you introduce yourself?
Do women look at past divorce as a negative? Or they don't care?
Post divorce, when you are chasing women again, do you guys say "divorced," or "single" when you introduce yourself?
Do women look at past divorce as a negative? Or they don't care?
mr2s2000elise said:Post divorce, when you are chasing women again, do you guys say "divorced," or "single" when you introduce yourself?
Do women look at past divorce as a negative? Or they don't care?
Coming from the other side of the fence, back when I was single (pre-married) I had a few instant disqualifiers for dates:
1) currently married (duh)
2) divorced
3) had kids
Regardless of whether I found out on the first date or the 20th. So you might as well be 100% straight out of the box, and not waste anyone's time.
In reply to volvoclearinghouse :
Yes... ;)
volvoclearinghouse said:nutherjrfan said:god I can't even get a woman to look at me. seems like i'm not missing much.
It depends. In my experience, relationships with women can be a lot like owning a vintage Jaguar. When they're good, they're really good...but when they go bad, it can get really tricky and potentially expensive.
NOT potentially expensive. Depends on the law of the land where you reside, but every month 35% of my income leaves my hands and lands elsewhere. You can remove the word potentially.
In reply to NGTD :
Of course you're aware of why divorce is so expensive.
Because it's worth it.
In reply to volvoclearinghouse :
I had same disqualifiers
i am curious if most women have same disqualifiers and dislike towards divorced men or not ...
When I started dating my now wife, I got all that dirty laundry out in the open very quickly. I figured if I were to scare her away, I should do it now.
She later told me that she appreciated my honesty and sincerity. I honestly think it laid the foundation for the crazy amount of trust and communication we have now.
But for now, enjoy yourself!! Breaking the bondage of a terrible relationship can be rough at first but it gets much, much better.
captdownshift said:In reply to NGTD :
Of course you're aware of why divorce is so expensive.
Because it's worth it.
EVERY SINGLE CENT!!!
In reply to NGTD :
From start to finish, over two years, four attorneys and damn near $10,000 I agree. Every penny.
1) currently married (duh)
2) divorced
3) had kids
As a happily married dude, if I ever was back at it, those would not be disqualifying, instead, it would be how quickly someone wants to make the same choices again.
In general, I am hesitant of people who rush to get married, rush to get divorced, and rush to have kids.
MGTOW
It gets better for sure. Mine was final a few months ago.
I'm glad to hear that you're moving on Jav. Seems like the right decision for you both.
In reply to pheller :
As someone with one pending, I agree. Life is a journey, we all end up with the same end result. I don't understand not being willing to work on one's self or a relationship. Or rushing to have children when it's not financially prudent (especially at $60+k to concieve).
In reply to captdownshift :
Sixty grand!? It should never cost more than the price of a good dinner, and maybe a movie. With popcorn.
In reply to 1988RedT2 :
My medical history dictates making a withdrawal from the bank. The being said, I also have ZERO interest in passing on my medical predispositions.
1988RedT2 said:In reply to captdownshift :
Sixty grand!? It should never cost more than the price of a good dinner, and maybe a movie. With popcorn.
Conception is, undoubtedly, the cheapest and most enjoyable part about having children.
Hopefully there were not any kids involved... I am closing in on 100K in attorney fees and court related expenses to maintain my role as a father.
For any parents divorced or otherwise please look into supporting "shared parenting" laws in your own state. Last year Kentucky was the first in the nation to pass into law a rebuttable presumption of equal parenting time. Other states such as Arizona and others have statutes that require the courts to "maximize" parenting time.
These laws are already proving to in new cases reduce the drama and trauma the children experience post divorce by protecting their relationship with parents from ridiculous every other weekend plans and allowing the most contact with each parent when appropriate.
Over 30 states had some type of measure introduced last year. Most legislative sessions start early January and many are already prefiling legislation.
I am among several groups leading the charge in Kansas to make some reform.
https://www.kshb.com/news/local-news/kansas-bill-could-change-child-custody-cases
In reply to ronholm :
That would probably not have made a big difference when my parents split....
...but.... my parents split when I was like 35. I could see how it would be a big benefit for the younger kids. Heck it’s tricky as a full grown adult to navigate split parents!
In reply to ronholm :
Unfortunately, there were, but we did really well. I only moved 3 blocks away and I get to see them between 5-7 days per week. I have the morning routine for them every day and the after school 1 day, plus 2 weeknights and the every other weekend. Being so close makes it super easy to get an extra couple of hours on the "off days". Luckily we may not have agreed on our relationship, but we ar 100% in lockstep with our kids.
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