Learn me metrosexuals

She should know better than mess with any of that jarhead trash from MCLB Most of the Marines that get stationed here bring someone with them Metro works in those big cities Ive seen guys head out in the Corps and come back to Albany all dolled up and learned real quick it doesn't work around here How they dress to go out to a club in CA/Japan gets you beat up around here maybe the time away will break her from him In the long run its her life and you can only hope you raised her right and she makes the right decisions

Zomby woof wrote: When you ask for advice on a very diverse forum full of car guys, accept that you're getting what you asked for, even if you disagree with it. Just a thought.

I have accepted and expected it. Doesn't mean I can't respond to it.

I didn't actually ask for comments on the Bible. Those were volunteered completely unsolicited, and have virtually nothing to do with this thread.

Just a thought.

SVreX wrote:

Karl La Follette wrote: bible = trouble

Thousands of honorable men with Bibles in their pockets have bleed to death and sacrificed their own hopes and dreams in the wasteland of battlefields to protect your right to say asinine stuff like that. Just a thought.

Thousands have died because of them too. It is only asinine if you are the sort of person who thinks well manicured men with a lisp and an overly pronounced love of jesus is a good thing...

I am ribbin' ya a little here but I wonder if you really do want to see your daughter paired up with a serious bible thumper. I can't think of a worse fate for a bright independent woman.

How'd the meeting/dinner go?

SVreX wrote:

Zomby woof wrote: When you ask for advice on a very diverse forum full of car guys, accept that you're getting what you asked for, even if you disagree with it. Just a thought.

I have accepted and expected it. Doesn't mean I can't respond to it. I didn't actually ask for comments on the Bible. Those were volunteered completely unsolicited, and have virtually nothing to do with this thread. Just a thought.

SVreX..it might actually be applicable after all..perhaps you should wonder if the guy just carried a bible to gain your favor? Heck, once upon a time, I had a bible (I had discarded Christianity before I was old enough to drive, but had been raised in a Christian family..I knew how to "fake it") shoved into the map pocket of my E21, in hope that the rare LEO that was smarter than my radar detector would see it, and cut me a break. I'd pull it out of "storage" and set it on the passenger seat while the guy was chasing me down, before I pulled over.

I lied to the cops to keep to keep points off my license, but never lied about that stuff to a girl or her parents. Some things are more important than keeping your driving record hidden from your insurance company.

Is it so much of a stretch of the imagination to imagine that someone less moral might lie about their religious affiliation in hopes of sexual conquest?

The biggest "storm warning" I see here is that you had to request the man-to-man meeting, rather than it being his own suggestion. If he really thought of himself as worthy of your daughter, he would have been practically "begging" to have that discussion with you. Honestly, if the guy doesn't have enough confidence in himself to request an honest conversation with you about the age difference, he does not have enough confidence in himself to keep your daughter's affection over the long-term.

I say this as someone who is in a relationship with a much younger woman. Yeah, it was scary to approach her father (in fact, she was originally angry that I did it), but my feelings for her made it worth the risk. I'm still not his favorite person..but he respects me for telling him m'self, instead of hearing it from someone else.

If that clown chasing your daughter isn't capable of even an attempt to explain his desire for her to you, he's a coward. In such a case, your concerns are well-founded. Good luck, sir.

ok well yes metrosexuals are heterosexual men who happen to have adopted some female habits... however i wouldnt say he would choose it. but it is possible he has in that it he may be awkward socially otherwise and it gives him a shield. 10 years isnt all that bad depending,,., the constant flowers do not seem normal to me.

and lastly do we as a society still judge people on personality traits as far as thier sexual orientation? just to share a story. 2 guys. both went to same highschool both played football and basketball and ran track. good students. both into cars. one is 6'4 about 300 and had a full scholarship to notre dame. complete mans man. however he only liked men from a sexual standpoint. now the other only around 5'5 very small and slight. and despite his athletic prowness always recieved flac for the fact of how feminine they acted. this person grew up got married and now at this point has changed thier gender..and still to this day is only atracted to woman. would you like to suggest that this person chose thier predicament? that they chose to be transgender? my point with this is stereotypes are just that stereotypes you can never judge a book by its cover. and not everyone fits in little boxes. maybe just maybe he is the stronger person for just being true to himself instead of doing what ive seen far to many men do and control thier emotions and mannersisms just to fit into the typical mans box?

how is he only a lance corporal at 30-ish years of age? where was he from high school graduation until now?

In three original subjectreply to KATYB:

Most of us are not stereotypical. That is probably why we can collaborate to come up with there best answer. I think the conversation has gotten a little off the subject which is only to be expected.

So, SVreX. How did we end up?

AngryCorvair wrote: how is he only a lance corporal at 30-ish years of age? where was he from high school graduation until now?

He likes the Lance.

Ever go into a room not knowing what to expect, and then once you know what's going on you wish you hadn't?

In reply to bravenrace:

You mean like most my threads?

bravenrace wrote: Ever go into a room not knowing what to expect, and then once you know what's going on you wish you hadn't?

Yep! I'm rather new to the GRM forum and have found that you can get raked over the coals for a very long time for expressing your opinion if it differs from the masses. I'm learning what the haters hate and the lovers love and don't personally get off on arguing with someone, especially on an online forum, I'm learning to keep some of my opinions to myself. All in all though, this is the most enjoyable forum I've ever signed up for and the only one I'm currently active in.

In reply to Graefin10:

Well you seem to have learned much quicker than me! But I have learned mostly when to keep my mouth/keyboard shut. I sometimes get in too deep when it's something that matters to me, but fortunately this thread doesn't.

we have haters? I find that if you stay away from politics and religion.. this is a VERY peaceful and pleasant place to be

In reply to mad_machine:

Oh yes, AND LOVERS. I could give you a list but I don't want to steer this thread away from it's intended purpose and also that's an opinion that I choose to keep to myself.

I'm wise enough to expect that, after all, all you need is a group of 2 or more to have different ideas or opinions. I don't use the word haters as derogitory toward anyone, just to express the passion some posters use to express their opinion.

better to wear your beliefs in your heart not on your sleeves ,

I think it's time to bust this out...

The guy has given you enough gaps/idiosyncrasies to not trust him. You can dig a little more and see if it's warranted. Which leaves you to confront him, your daughter or both or keep it to yourself - but you already know this. Sorta sounds like the daughter is nervous about stepping out in the big world - he's a comfy safety net (probably not really). If her internship goes ok, he'll be old news in a hurry.

mad_machine wrote: we have haters? I find that if you stay away from politics and religion.. this is a VERY peaceful and pleasant place to be

What fun would that be?

I guess I view it as this; I would not want this person to date my (hypothetical) daughter, due to my prejudices and beliefs. Being the relatively intolerant person I am, I'd probably kill him after 10 years of dealing with his metro-ness.

Having said that, she is an adult, can do what she wants, and hopefully isn't enough of a basketcase (being blunt here) that she can sort out what she wants in a man. If she has any respect for you/your wife, then those traits will probably be reflected in who she chooses to be with.

And finally, yes, I do define one's sexual inclinations by how they act, because 90+% of the time it's true, the other 9% of the time the dude should man the hell up, and the 1% of the time it's some artfag.

And, just for a song reference, "Iiiiiiii love little girls they make me feel so, good, whennnnnn they are around they make me feel like I'm the only guy in town"

She's young. She has a lot of learning to do. You know how you learn? You make mistakes.

As long as she does not get pregnant, an STD, abused (doesn't sound like the abusive type), or married too soon (doesn't sound like a concern either), she'll ultimately be okay.

Avoid the shooting part. The guy IS a Marine and they do know how to use firearms. I suggest just getting to know him. He might wind up being your son in law.

FWIW I had an aquaintance that was an ex marine (as ex as they ever get) and realized he like sex with other guys. OK but I'm not intertested. He was working for some spook outfit at the time and I believe he was an assissin. Not all gay guys are wimps. Not all wimps are gay. Get to know him.

I'm kind of confused how this is even an issue. They've only known each other for a week or two and she's just left the continent for a year. Do you really think this is going to last more than another week or two? You're only prolonging it by asking to meet with him by making him think he's a bigger, more important part of her life than he really is. He'll email her (or skype her) for a bit, they'll run out of things to talk about because they're in very different spots in their lives and he'll be nothing but a funny memory in a few months. Stop contacting the guy and let this run it's natural, and very short life.

Bob

friedgreencorrado wrote: SVreX..it might actually be applicable after all..perhaps you should wonder if the guy just carried a bible to gain your favor? Heck, once upon a time, I had a bible (I had discarded Christianity before I was old enough to drive, but had been raised in a Christian family..I knew how to "fake it")

friedgreencorrado wrote: Is it so much of a stretch of the imagination to imagine that someone less moral might lie about their religious affiliation in hopes of sexual conquest?

First off- I didn't say he carried a Bible. I said he was a Christian.

Secondly, you were not anywhere near as good at faking it as you thought you were. Just as most people on this forum can identify a true car buff after a few sentences, I am very discerning, and am generally very good at telling the difference between a true believer and a poser.

I am not questioning his faith, and see no reason for anyone else on this board to do so. It only exhibits people's biases.

friedgreencorrado wrote: The biggest "storm warning" I see here is that *you* had to request the man-to-man meeting, rather than it being his own suggestion.

Actually, I said I called THIS meeting. He asked to speak to me first at an earlier time.

AngryCorvair wrote: how is he only a lance corporal at 30-ish years of age? where was he from high school graduation until now?

Working. For a good cause.