Mother's Day - HELP!!!

Last year I really screwed up. There were circumstances, but basically I didn't do anything for my wife, and neither did my kids. In my defense, that's a first. So this year I have to do something really great. Problem is, I'm kind of clueless when it comes to these kinds of things, so I'm turning to the great GRM minds to help me out. Any ideas?? I'll consider almost anything.

Someone here wrote a blog, and posted to it everyday, with something they liked about their spouse. Blogspot is a pretty good site for this...I tried it, but stopped after a week because my wife told me that she doesnt care much for blogs and thinks bloggers are full of themselves lol

In reply to 4cylndrfury:

Thanks. That's a good suggestion, but mine would likely feel the same as yours about that. She hates all social media with a passion.

Make her a nice breakfast and a gift card for a day Spa?

If you don't know her well enough to come up with something,..... well...... someone else might.

A bit of pampering. Back rub with warm oil, FLOWERS!! Hand made card. Bring her attention to the things she does for you that maybe you haven't told her how much you appreciate. Tell her quite clearly that you love her. And why. As far as the kids, same card idea. I think these will be more appreciated than fancy jewelry, at least they have been for me.

I am giving my mom a covey of bob white quail. They are pretty, friendly little birds that will help keep the bugs under control in her garden.

pilotbraden wrote: I am giving my mom a covey of bob white quail. They are pretty, friendly little birds that will help keep the bugs under control in her garden.

Thats kind of neat. I'm cheap. Flowers it is!

Oh crap, are they having that again this year? It's sometime this month right?

bravenrace wrote: In reply to 4cylndrfury: Thanks. That's a good suggestion, but mine would likely feel the same as yours about that. She hates all social media with a passion.

Wow, your wife sounds really cool, I like her already. I feel the same way about social media.

To the point of your question, first thing is to consider what's important to her? In other words, does she really care about material gifts or would it be lost on her? Some women would love a simple charm bracelet or something, but others could care less. Does she like the salon, does she go often?

For my wife, as corny as it sounds, she just likes to know that she's valued as a mother and a wife. So most "gifts", while she may like them, don't have a ton of meaning. She's happiest with things the kids make for her (though we usually don't keep them long) and stuff like that. I may send her to get her nails done, etc...to give her some "me" time. But the most important thing is to just say thank you for all she does and make sure she knows how much she's appreciated. That goes farther than anything you can buy.

Woody wrote: Oh crap, are they having that again this year? It's sometime this month right?

It's that kind of thinking (or lack or) that got me in this mess in the first place.

Oh, c'mon guys, you giving up on my that easy?? I appreciate all the suggestions, but they are pretty standard stuff. I've been married a looooooonnnnnnnng time. I need some creative suggestions. ???? Paleeez??

Well, this wasn't Mothers' Day, but....

My wife's b-day and our anniversary are only two weeks apart. Last year, my wife turned 40, so it was a big deal. Her b-day was in the middle of the week, so I gave her the standard b-day card, but told her we'd celebrate over the weekend. I planned two separate weekends.

First weekend - my wife is a huge Philadelphia Phillies fan (as am I). The first game of the playoffs was a few days after her b-day. I went on StubHub and bought two tickets. I also bought her a new Phillies shirt and packed everything we'd need (warm clothes...it was a cold day). I didn't tell her anything. I hid everything in the car and told her that I wanted her to come with me to look at a car I was interested in. I drove to the ballpark and said "HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!"

Second weekend - again, everything was a surprise. She thought she was coming with me in the morning to watch our kids swimming lessons. I dropped the kids off at swimming, then took her to the salon. I had previously arranged an appointment for her to have a manicure, peticure and a massage. I picked her up at lunch time and she thought her day was done. Mid-afternoon, I told her to kiss the kids goodbye and get in the car (I had made a deal with our nanny to watch the kids overnight). First stop was the place where we got married. We hadn't been there in at least 10 years. We walked around a while remembering the wedding. Then we went to a quaint little town that has an old fashion steam engine train. They take you for a ride through the countryside, then we walked around town a bit. Then we went to a hotel (Aloft) where our room had a full kitchen in it. I had already pre-packed all the ingredients and a recipe to make a really nice dinner (one of our hobbies before our kids were born was to cook together). We made a really nice meal together and had a candle light dinner.

But again, these are all things I know my wife values and enjoys. We've been married 12+ years and together 14+. Those ideas were planned around things I knew she'd appreciate and value. Except for the Phillies shirt, I didn't really buy her anything to keep. All my money was spent on activities and planning. You need to think about what makes your wife tick and create something around it.

Several years ago, my dad filled up a digital photo keychain thingamajigger with a bunch of photos of us kids when we were just pups. Its still on her purse strap, about 5 purses later...Id say it was a hit

bravenrace wrote: Last year I really screwed up. There were circumstances, but basically I didn't do anything for my wife, and neither did my kids. In my defense, that's a first. So this year I have to do something really great. Problem is, I'm kind of clueless when it comes to these kinds of things, so I'm turning to the great GRM minds to help me out. Any ideas?? I'll consider almost anything.

I'm here to tell you.

Stop thinking that your wife is your mother. It's mother's day, not wife's day. Help your kids (if they're old enough, and you are so inclined) do something. Call it a day.

Take your mom out for lunch.

How about not inferring that you want a mistress?

Zomby Woof wrote:

bravenrace wrote: Last year I really screwed up. There were circumstances, but basically I didn't do anything for my wife, and neither did my kids. In my defense, that's a first. So this year I have to do something really great. Problem is, I'm kind of clueless when it comes to these kinds of things, so I'm turning to the great GRM minds to help me out. Any ideas?? I'll consider almost anything.

I'm here to tell you. Stop thinking that your wife is your mother. It's mother's day, not wife's day. Help your kids (if they're old enough, and you are so inclined) do something. Call it a day. Take your mom out for lunch.

You know, that's the way I feel about it, but my wife doesn't agree. What do you do about that?

Remind her about the nice thing you did for her on Valentines day.

Then tell her to get back in the kitchen.

In reply to Zomby Woof:

When's Valentine's Day? Speaking of the Kitchen, I just spend $30k on it. Think that will satisfy her?

If it doesn't, you have a problem. I got away with $12k

Pre emptive strike ! Start with dinner couple days before , wash her car , get some air f resheners new wipers new cd ect.. also leave notes on mirrors , in wash machine