John Welsh said:
In reply to infinitenexus :
Just 18 months ago you started this author journey. To hear you are on track for $100k in less than 2 years is AMAZING.
Please reconsider sticking around. It's nice to have you here.
Thank you for the compliment. If many of the other users were more like you, I would probably stay. But as I said, I very rarely post outside of this thread (and the workout one) any longer, and when I do I usually regret it. People are just flat-out rude on here, and if I post something they don't like I get downvoted into oblivion, mocked, and people start with the "oh you're just mad someone disagreed with you" BS. No, I'm mad because I thought this was a place of maturity, but turns out it's not. It's decayed into a forum of old guys that are shiny happy people most of the time and as I said earlier, justify their crappy behavior by calling it tough love, or hard truths, or whatever nonsense. Even when they're not openly hostile, the general attitude around here is pretty crappy. Very much a cool kid's club that I'm not a member of, so to speak.
I've been reading GRM magazine since 1998, have wanted to participate in the 2000 challenge since then, and have posted on here for years through highs and lows in my life (mostly lows, during which time people massively twisted my story to fit their own narrative and then mocked me. I reached out to this community at my lowest hoping for some help, or at least some love and support, and instead I got page after page of people being complete shiny happy people and of course, justifying it by saying I needed tough love), but I just feel no need to continue. It's sad to enjoy something for 25 years and then see it go downhill, when I thought I had found a good community. This doesn't feel like a welcoming place to me. This community brings me zero joy, and I dread posting anything because I know the jerks will come out of the woodwork. I have very, very little free time in my life, so I choose to spend it in places that offer positivity and happiness. Sadly, GRM is no longer one of those places, and honestly hasn't been for a long time but I've been lying to myself.
To be fair, most social media is that way. I've noticed people getting worse on all platforms lately, which is why I've been slowly removing all my social media interactions with the exception of stuff I use to advertise my books.
But if I post basically any opinion on here, I get mocked. If I have any hardships, I get mocked, downvoted, and shiny happy people shout that I need to learn a hard lesson, instead of just offering some kind advice. I'm sure someone will quote this and tell me to stop whining (as I was recently described as whining in another thread because I *gasp* posited an opinion), and everyone will upvote that shiny happy person's comment while mocking any retort of mine (and then deny they're mocking me of course). People can complain about me all they want, but I just feel no desire to ever visit here again. Sadly, many people will read these words and sneer, instead of asking themselves if they should treat strangers on the internet differently. Nothing here will change, and I will quickly be forgotten.
Thank you to those who showed me kindness. I wish you all the best. I'm logging out now and don't plan on returning.
I'll let my last post be this: I've made $43,000 this year so far selling books, and that includes my cyberpunk trilogy that was a huge flop (but I'm glad I got to complete it finally) and me taking a month off because my day job got too busy. I should end the year over $50K. Next year I fully anticipate making $80K, with a bit of effort I might even break into 6 figures. Oh, and today I'm paying for a 944 with a rebuilt transaxle, LSD, and factory recaros. Finally got my future track car. Now, we're saving for a house, which should come soon.
I'm out.