Just reminding myself how thankful I am that I had a boy.
You know what they say - when you have a son, you only have to worry about ONE little prick. When you have a daughter, you have to worry about ALL of them.
Not to be an ass, but pix like those just make me wish I could go back and do college all over again.
Thanks! I can't wait until my daughter gets older, NOT! I love her but I dread that she will end up dating some jerk. I have a few years to go as she is only 7 almost 8.
Auto ADD wrote: I lover her
I HOPE that's a typo...
My daughter turns 13 next month - not only do I officially enter the "father of a teenage daughter" years but most of her friends are becoming "boy crazy". Thankfully she's not too interested (yet) which gives me plenty of time to pick out a nice shogun to accompany me sitting on the front porch when the boys start sniffing around. I'm pretty sure that we're raising her so that she'll never have pictures like those anywhere, at least I hope we are.
I am having trouble understanding your topic here.
I think more pictures would help, maybe something near the beach.
jrw1621 wrote: I am having trouble understanding your topic here. I think more pictures would help, maybe something near the beach.
I agree.
I’ve got two daughters (six & three) so this subject is very much on my mind.
Every decision I make in terms of my parenting style is made with the future in mind…in other words, I always consider how my current actions will affect both my relationship with them and their self image when they’re at the dating age.
I try to be accepting and understanding of them so they’re comfortable sharing what’s going on with me and I try to instill the maximum sense of self worth and confidence in them so they’ll be comfortable telling boys to go Berkley themselves.
I make a concerted effort to demystify “guy” stuff…I take my daughters to the hardware store, have them hang out while I’m doing home repairs, etc…this is all intended to instill the message that they can do anything a boy can do.
What else should I be doing to fortify them???
As someone who coaches high school girls basketball, I'll tell you the biggest thing you can do for them is BE THERE and don't be a Bob Costas. When you promise them something, keep that promise. DON'T promise them everything, or get them everything they want. Be a solid foundation for them. I can almost always tell you which girls don't have a strong father figure in their life by how they interact with boys.
The Daughter is just now getting her college acceptance letters in the mail.
Not really going to focus on what I could perceive as negatives, just hope that we taught/raised her well and take it from there.
JFX001 wrote: ..., just hope that we taught/raised her well and take it from there.
That's the correct answer. My father told me if you don't have them by the time they're 12, you never will.
I'm always bragging on my kid here, maybe I just got lucky. Doesn't matter, he tells me it's best Mommy & Daddy can't see the chilluns' Facebook.
Dan
All good points. My daughter is 10 so the dating stuff is still a few years off, but time moves fast!
In addition to what's been said, I think that young girls (and boys) also learn from how you and how you interact with women, primarily their mother or stepmother or whatever. If you treat them with love and respect and like an equal partner in the relationship, your daughter will grow up expecting to be treated that way.
pigeon wrote: I'm pretty sure that we're raising her so that she'll never have pictures like those anywhere, at least I hope we are.
Pictures like what, with her making the duckface?
Sheeeeeit, man. The OP's pictures don't feature guidos OR her drunkenly making out with other girls, I'd call that a pretty well-raised girl.
PM me her number!
My niece takes no prisoners when it comes to guys and relationships - it's either her way or the highway. And her way means she knows she's too young, ambitious and inquisitive to make a life-committment. There's a trail of broken hearts leading all the way back to junior high; it will get longer, too......
My sister and BIL have done a wonderful job of raising her and my two nephews. All have a deep-seated sense of self-worth and self-confidence. Not enough can be said about loving your kids, giving them guidance and treating them like real people who will become functional adults in a dysfunctional society.
In reply to Dwayne Elizondo Mountain Dew Herbert Camacho:
I might point out that posting pictures of her on the internet in a bikini are likely to make her want to do more than scare you.
Doesn't matter if it's nieces or daughters......best to watch how John Candy handles it in "Uncle Buck".
pete240z wrote: hey, they are drinking glasses of Sunny D....how bad could they be?
Depends on whether it's spiked with vodka, tequila or Jagermeister.
my daughter just turned 21 this past July, she went to Vegas for her birthday......along with my wife so she could see her older (31) brother who lives out there.
I don't worry about her and dating too much, first because she'll rip'em a new one and secondly her 3 older brothers' will destroy anyone that tries to hurt her in any way...
In high school, when they found out who her brothers were, most of the problem guys just walked away..
No daughters, but I have 16 and 18 year nieces that are very attractive. My poor brother. Some of the previous boyfriends of the 18 yo were, how shall I say this, pretty questionable. The one she has now is much better, but there seems to be a trail of guys following her around. Of course my brother is pretty hard on the bf's too, and he has a good relationship with his daughters, so that is always good.
My conversations with them though always leave me with the same feeling...I am SO glad I'm not a teenager any more!
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