Relationship advice

I think relationships never get better with time, the just seem to breakdown more often and more frequently. So say to yourself "right now, this is as good as it gets". If you're happy right now, stay the course. If not, make a change.

Sounds like you are bored with the current GF. In times like that people tend to focus on the negatives rather the positives. Remember that you and the old GF broke up for a reason. In my experience the grass is never greener on the other side, just "different" (or shaved if you're lucky :) Talk with your current GF and if nothing changes than at least you know. Then call the ex and get her lick-erd up!

bigbrainonbrad wrote: Sorry to bring this back from the dead but... four years back I came to a fork in the road and went down the path that I thought was right. Recently the other girl came back into the picture. Looking back some of the most fun of my adult life was spent with this person and just being around her was more fun than I have had with the current g/f in some time. In all honesty I was/am happy with the current g/f but the thought of what coulda, shoulda, woulda been keeps going through my head making me realize that the happiness I feel with the current g/f maybe isn't real. Any insights or advice?

"The path not taken." Ouch. In my experience, trying to get back on it at a later time is the path to hell. The people you once were, rather than the people you are now. Problem is, you are the people you are now.

Disclaimer: For me, it happened fifteen years later instead of four...your mileage may vary.

FGC, point well taken. I completely understand that neither the other girl or myself are quite the same people. On the few occasions a year when I slipped out for lunch with her there was always a tension on the table between us, whether she was involved with someone or not. Ultimately, for me it is the fact that if I don't try I'll always question it, worst case something doesn't work out with her but I'm not stuck in a relationship with someone that I'm not on the same page with.

Sadly, this girl is someone that I can really be open with and say what is on my mind, I can't even do that with my own family. Even if there is no romantic future with her it is good to be able to have a plutonic relationship with her something the old g/f didn't particularly like.

Thanks to all that posted in response, everyone I've talked to at least agreed with me that it was time to go.

bigbrainonbrad wrote: FGC, point well taken. I completely understand that neither the other girl or myself are quite the same people. On the few occasions a year when I slipped out for lunch with her there was always a tension on the table between us, whether she was involved with someone or not. Ultimately, for me it is the fact that if I don't try I'll always question it,

"Path not taken", dude! Sometimes, it has an allure like a $1300 dollar Porsche..

bigbrainonbrad wrote: worst case something doesn't work out with her but I'm not stuck in a relationship with someone that I'm not on the same page with. Sadly, this girl is someone that I can really be open with and say what is on my mind, I can't even do that with my own family. Even if there is no romantic future with her it is good to be able to have a plutonic relationship with her something the old g/f didn't particularly like.

IMO, the fact that you said "sadly" means you're going to have problems later on in your friendship if there's no romantic future.
OTOH, if you've really given up on it, you'll have a great friend who will be there for you when you're wondering "..what the berkeley does she want from me!!.." when your new girlfriends go berzerk.

bigbrainonbrad wrote: Thanks to all that posted in response, everyone I've talked to at least agreed with me that it was time to go.

IMO, you have to separate your current relationships from the ones you've had in the past, regardless of whether your "ex" is a friend or an enemy. There is no happiness when you compare the current relationship with a previous one. Just look at the one you have, and ask yourself, "..is this somebody I really want to be with?" Sometimes you can't see the craziness in front of you if you compare it to the craziness you're familiar with..