Some people are just broken. There is no help for them.

I have a POS for a brother in law. He has no money because he been to lazy to get a job for 5 years. His wife supports them and his mother watches the three kids, because he refuses to. He claims it's too hard. He wants the world delivered to him on a platter and doesn't want to work for it. I pretty much washed my hands of him years ago, but my wife still holds out hope for him.

Unfortunately they decided to come here for vacation this year. My wife got him a hotel room cheap, we've been feeding them, set up inexpensive things for them to do and paid for most of it. The worthless berkeley repaid us by backing his rental into my daughter's, boyfriend's brand new car and driving off without telling anyone. The boyfriend noticed the scratches the next day and asked my daughter to check the rental. Sure enough, nice scuff marks on the rear bumper cover, all the way to the wheel arch and on the wheel, she shot a couple of pictures and told my wife after they had returned to the hotel for the evening. My wife called the BIL about it, he said he'd check the car, but he didn't think so. Today, all the scuff marks and paint transfer have been buffed out and he claims he couldn't have hit anything because there are no marks on the car. What a lying sack of E36 M3. My wife is crushed, I'm pissed, my kids are pissed.

If that's the way he treats family, I have no use for him. He should be horse whipped or caned and left to die. My house is closed to him, my family will never have anything to do with him again. He and his family are dead to us. My wife will be the third member of his family to disown him and tell him to never come back. You would think even the stupidest would learn eventually.

Some people are just past redemption.

You should buy a motorcycle.

Giant Purple Snorklewacker wrote: You should HIM a motorcycle.

wearymicrobe wrote:

Giant Purple Snorklewacker wrote: You should HIM a motorcycle.

Yep. Let things iron themselves out.

For some reason, this came to mind:

Shut up, GPS.

Kazoospec, you aren't too far from being right. Look up white trash in the dictionary, his picture is probably there along with his whining brats and wife.

Datsun1500 wrote: I'd have the boyfriend report it to the rental company as a hit and run, but I can be pretty mean :)

... and then you'd need a police report which sends you down a whole new road of pains in the asses to deal with.

Toyman01 wrote: Shut up, GPS. Kazoospec, you aren't too far from being right. Look up white trash in the dictionary, his picture is probably there along with his whining brats and wife.

That's a relief. It used to be my picture...

Q. What's the difference between friends and family?

A. You can pick your friends.

Sorry, don't have anything but silliness to add...

Personally, I can't stand hit and run people. I'd call the cops and show them the pictures.

My wife’s Explorer was hit by a hit and run driver this winter and I am still pissed

I just can't believe he's not man enough to own up to a mistake. The boyfriend's car is going to cost about $150 to fix, but this isn't about the money. It's about a person owning up to their mistakes. At 36 years of age, you should be adult enough to do that.

I'm past it, he's been told to move on and don't come back. My wife is pretty sad and embarrassed to be related to him. Lucky for me he lives 12 hours from here and can't afford to make the drive without help. I wash my hands of him.

Toyman01 wrote: I have a POS for a brother in law. Some people are just past redemption.

Been there done that with an X BIL. What is even worse is that he will be bitching to everyone in earshot how you are unjustly accusing him of something that he did not do. The fact is that he will honestly believe what he is saying. THAT is what you are up against.

Good luck. Be grateful that you can avoid him and let the anger die its worse than the car damage.

And that's the best thing to do. Just write him off and never discuss him again except as an example to others of how NOT to live.

I have family like that.. runs on both sides of the family with one on each. I am sorry it took this for your wife to realize, but at least it was a "Cheap" fix materially.. emotionally is a much different matter

I moved to NJ in 89. My parents live in MD and I go visit them regularly. Family is in Pittsburgh, we all moved away for the same reason and I return for funerals only. I'd much rather hang out with the "family" I've chosen than that brood.

Toyman01 wrote: I have a POS for a brother in law. He has no money because he been to lazy to get a job for 5 years. His wife supports them and his mother watches the three kids, because he refuses to. He claims it's too hard. He wants the world delivered to him on a platter and doesn't want to work for it. I pretty much washed my hands of him years ago, but my wife still holds out hope for him. Unfortunately they decided to come here for vacation this year. My wife got him a hotel room cheap, we've been feeding them, set up inexpensive things for them to do and paid for most of it. The worthless berkeley repaid us by backing his rental into my daughter's, boyfriend's brand new car and driving off without telling anyone. The boyfriend noticed the scratches the next day and asked my daughter to check the rental. Sure enough, nice scuff marks on the rear bumper cover, all the way to the wheel arch and on the wheel, she shot a couple of pictures and told my wife after they had returned to the hotel for the evening. My wife called the BIL about it, he said he'd check the car, but he didn't think so. Today, all the scuff marks and paint transfer have been buffed out and he claims he couldn't have hit anything because there are no marks on the car. What a lying sack of E36 M3. My wife is crushed, I'm pissed, my kids are pissed. If that's the way he treats family, I have no use for him. He should be horse whipped or caned and left to die. My house is closed to him, my family will never have anything to do with him again. He and his family are dead to us. My wife will be the third member of his family to disown him and tell him to never come back. You would think even the stupidest would learn eventually. Some people are just past redemption.

not to tell you how to handle this … but I guess I am…

I'm pretty sure I'd tell him he's a lying sack of E36 M3 …show him the pic … then walk into the motel office, and pay off the room up to the min. and tell him to get out …don't come back

but then I'm not really a vindictive person

Toyman01 wrote: I just can't believe he's not man enough to own up to a mistake. The boyfriend's car is going to cost about $150 to fix, but this isn't about the money. It's about a person owning up to their mistakes. At 36 years of age, you should be adult enough to do that. I'm past it, he's been told to move on and don't come back. My wife is pretty sad and embarrassed to be related to him. Lucky for me he lives 12 hours from here and can't afford to make the drive without help. I wash my hands of him.

Wait, I'm 36 yo...I just visited SC...If I really hustle I maybe could be there in 12 hours... Am I your brother in law!?!?

we already have a rant thread..........

In reply to Nick_Comstock:

I wish, if you were I would't be dealing with this crap. Besides, this E36 M3 head is from New Orleans, not Texas.

Curmudgeon, I came here for the knowledge and stayed for the silliness. Knowledge is easy, silliness is worth its weight in gold.

Oldskewl, I reserve the right to start another, special, rant thread, just for me.

oldeskewltoy wrote: we already have a rant thread..........

And what's ruining the country.

Let's just not work trump into this

But yeah, for the car, turn him in for the hit and run then burn that bridge.

Been there, I have a brother I refuse to speak to. You/the missus are not alone.

Life is too short to deal with that kind of crap, or to allow yourself to be taken advantage of.

If you're up to it, I'm in favor of reporting the H&R to the police and rental company. Particularly if you have a pic that shows both the damage on the rental AND the license plate.

If you're not up to it, or want to spare your wife further embarrassment, then just never speak to him or of him again.

My brother is this person in my family.

I've got an uncle like this. The older they get, the more pathetic it is. When my grandmother passed away he thought he would get everything free & clear. NOPE! Turns out grandma's life insurance only paid out $50k and he still had to pay the mortgage and bills for the house. He had to split the $50k with my Dad. My Dad invested the money, my uncle tried to cash the insurance check AT A GROCERY STORE!!! My Dad tried to get him a bank account, but my dumbass uncle thinks he is a wanted man (he's not, God knows I've checked plenty of times) and therefore won't go into a bank. Last we heard he botched the house (the mortgage was only $200 a month) and lost it. That was five years ago and we've been wonderfully Allen free since then. He doesn't even know my Dad passed, which is fine with us. As far as we are concerned our connection with my uncle died along with my father.

I have an acquaintance whose own parents conned, and later literally stole, money from him when he was an adult.

Well, they are gone back to Louisiana. Good riddance.

As tempting as it would be to call the cops and the rental company, I'm going to pass on that. My wife's family just wouldn't understand that. They are a family full of enablers so the idiot will probably never grow up. Whatever, I'll never see him again.