Yeah, you have to show interest and show it early. If you try to date a girl you have a chance. If you try to be her friend you will probably never date her.
Yeah, you have to show interest and show it early. If you try to date a girl you have a chance. If you try to be her friend you will probably never date her.
Yeah...that's cool.
I'm to a point where if I'm interested in a girl, I really don't have much trouble letting her know.
I've found it works very well to ask "do you want to go on a date?"
That clears things right up and takes ambiguity out of it.
I've never been much of a dater, and have always been "the nice guy" but I'm working through that...but I've never felt showing interest in a girl betrays any trust.
I was talking about this the other day...I'd be interested in dating ANY of my good-looking girl friends...I don't hang around too many that I don't feel that way about ;).
Clem
You're welcome. I will continue to be me until further notice, after which point I will be a woodland creature yet to be determined.
Sorry dude :(. Glad everyone here (maybe not me) could be a help. Sounds like you might have gotten through the break up better than I. Same thing happened to me last May and I dated the girl for the same amount of time. Props to you because I went into a deep dark hole, drinking binge, late to work, not giving a crap about finishing my degree, not working on my cars, etc.
I wish you luck in the future and I'm sure the right one will come around, just don't worry about it and don't go looking for it. Be generous to yourself and be selfish haha. Hey, I'm about to take the $3200 I got back for the ring I bought the girl I was with and gonna purchase some CCW Classics for my Trans Am...you shosuld do the same haha.
ReverendDexter wrote:Appleseed wrote: Why do I like cars more than women? You can fix a broken car.Cars don't leave you and take half your stuff if you happen to drive another one.
Sorry to hear that man, always sux. Can I interest you in a my spouse who is currently driving me crazy!?!
(kidding honey)
watch "Swingers". be Trent.
This will sound pretty negative but, in my experience if you are a nice guy, the women who will give you what you want, see that you are a worker, honest, safe and loyal.
Then they will quite often sink their teeth into the soft underbelly leading to; demands, bribes, spite and total disrespect.
Never give up who and what you are but be very careful of what rock the she devil crawls out from under. Stay strong and never forgo your other passions.
AngryCorvair wrote: watch "Swingers". be Trent.
Don't be Trent. Be the Mike from the last 25 minutes. Go get your Lauraine.
I don't want you to be the guy in the PG-13 movie everyone's really hoping makes it happen. I want you to be like the guy in the rated R movie, you know, the guy you're not sure whether or not you like yet. You're not sure where he's coming from. Okay? You're a bad man.
I am lucky on a couple of points. I didn't get to the point of buying a ring, close, but not quite. Another 6 months and.... Like I said, I got lucky. She was willing to sit down and talk with me about 2 months after she left. Nothing changed, but I got a little closeure. Thanks again for all the support, now if I had a legit car problem....
Gearhead, these things happen for a reason. Like going to the Dentist, yeah it's short term agony and embarassment, but in the long run you're better off.
Sorry you have to go through this, but someone has higher hopes for you.
Dan
If all else fails, Chloroform and duct tape have always been good to me.
Wally wrote: If all else fails, Chloroform and duct tape have always been good to me.
"pardon me, miss, but does this rag smell like ether?"
Is it wrong that those are the first two comments I've thought to +1 for a while?
cwh wrote: Parents without Partners was a "Target Rich Environment" for me.
Ooh, good idea, and you know they put out!
Hey-Oh!
Per Schroeder wrote:cwh wrote: Parents without Partners was a "Target Rich Environment" for me.Ooh, good idea, and you know they put out!
In my experence that stops after the kid is born.
Wow, this thread is still going. You guys make me feel warm and fuzzy sometimes. Like a GRM embroidered snuggie... Granted it'd be better if I was saying you girls make me feel all warm and fuzzy
If I can laugh about it a little, I guess there's hope.
or you could learn from the example of Lloyd Dobler in the late-'80s teen romance "say anything":
INTERIOR LLOYD'S CAR - NIGHT
(Lloyd is recording a message for Corey.)
LLOYD It's me. I know I haven't called you lately. I guess I didn't want to be reminded of the Diane nightmare. By the way, I hardly remember her. I've wiped her from my mind. I don't remember the time or place when I knew her. This is it. The site of our controversial first date. I met her in a mall.
DRIVE-BY VIEW OF THE MALL
LLOYD I should have known our relationship was doomed. And to our left we have the street where she broke up with me, and there's the path we took... Corey, I guess in a way I blamed you, held it against you for letting me send that letter. I don't know, I thought it was the right thing to do. I think I know too many girls. I should hang out with more guys. I should be like one of those guys who hangs out at the AM-PM, or the Gas 'n' Sip on a Saturday. I don't know, guys like that really know the answers.
EXTERIOR GAS 'N' SIP - NIGHT
(All of the guys are sitting against a wire fence drinking and eating crisps. As each of them talks, the rest agree with him.)
JOE Lloyd man, no babe is worth it, you know. Listen, hang with us man, we'll teach you.
GUY #1 Right. Lloyd man, you can't even trust them man, because you know what it's about? They spend your money, and they tell their friends everything man, it's economics.
GUY #2 Man, all you gotta do is find a girl who looks just like her, nail her, and then dump her man, get her off your mind.
MARK Your only mistake is that you didn't dump her first. Diane Court is a showpony. You need a stallion, my friend. Walk with us and you walk tall.
LUKE Bitches, man! Hey dude, I'd better bail. See you later.
(They all say goodbye.)
MARK Later for you, Luke.
LLOYD I got a question. If you guys know so much about women, how come you're here at like the Gas 'n Sip on a Saturday night completely alone, drinking beers, no women anywhere?
(There is silence.)
JOE By choice, man!
GUY #2 Yeah man, conscious choice.
(They all agree.)
GUY #1 I'm choosing it.
JOE Dude, where'd she dump you man?
LLOYD My car.
JOE Your car?
GUY #1 Ah, man, ditched in the Malibu?
GUY #2 Ah, heinous.
MARK It's your castle, man.
GUY #2 Man, you never had a chance with a girl like that.
MARK Hey man, I was in love once. I got hurt really bad. I never wanna go through that again.
GUY #2 Man, you're bringing me down!
GUY #1 Shutup man. We're going to a kegger. Lloyd. We're going to a kegger and we'd like you to come. We're going to find you a girl. We're going to find you a babe. We're gonna find you one hot-lipped babe, instantly promised.
LLOYD No, no.
GUY #1 Right. One hot-lipped babe instantly promised.
LLOYD Look, I'm not going to meet somebody like Diane Court at a Kegger. This girl was different, man. We'd go out, we wouldn't even have to go out, you know? We'd just hang out. This girl made me trust myself, man. I was walking around and I was feeling satisfied. Can you imagine that? Then she cuts me loose. I don't know why. She won't tell me. Who knows the real reason? Maybe it's because of her father, I don't know. She won't talk to me. She won't even look at me.
(He throws his bottle against the fence and it smashes. The others get up.)
MARK Come on!
GUY #1 Christ Lloyd, what's happening to you man?
GUY #2 You're freaking out here man.
MARK You've gotta get her out of your head, man.
JOE Chill man, come on.
(The others start rapping in the background.)
JOE Dude, I don't even feel that way about my car, man. Dude, name a babe, alright? Any babe in Seattle and I'll set you up with her.
LLOYD Diane Court.
JOE Dude, I can't do it!
INTERIOR LLOYD'S CAR - NIGHT
(Lloyd is recording his message to Corey again.)
LLOYD That was a mistake. The rain on my car is a baptism. The new me. Iceman, power Lloyd. My assault on the world begins now. Believe in myself, answer to no one... You probably got it all figured out, Corey. If you start out depressed, everything's kind of a pleasant surprise.
(end my cut and paste of the script)
ok, so it works better on film than in text.
In reply to AngryCorvair:
Alcohol can be your friend. Or not......
poopshovel wrote: Quickest way to get over somebody is to get under somebody. Get off the 1nt4rw3bz and go knock the panties off somethin'. You're welcome, teh p00.
I almost love you
Per Schroeder wrote:cwh wrote: Parents without Partners was a "Target Rich Environment" for me.Ooh, good idea, and you know they put out!
Holy crap! I've been making that same joke about moms with kids since I was fifteen! It's always funnier in my head than other people think it is though.
Joey
Yep, my humor (like most guys) stop developed around the time I got my driver's license.
Capt Slow wrote:Per Schroeder wrote:In my experience that stops after the kid is born.cwh wrote: Parents without Partners was a "Target Rich Environment" for me.Ooh, good idea, and you know they put out!
My kid is 25 and you sir have my condolences.
Dan
Tally-HO! I'm in!
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