Why Doesn't Anyone Ever Listen To Me? (Most Likely TMI)

So I'm one of the unfortunate people that nobody ever listens to. I warn people of things or they come looking for advice, then they do the exact opposite, and then something negative happens. It's like I'm not trustworthy or something and this has been going on as long as I remember.

Tonight was no exception, except for the fact that it was my wife this time.

If anyone remembers my post from a while back about a clogged toilet, well I did as much as I felt comfortable short of calling a plumber. I can't afford someone else's services right now, so I have it flushing pretty descent and it flushes fine, until there is too much toilet paper thrown in.

I kept telling my wife that Number One is fine, no Number Two, it's gonna clog and to use the downstairs bathroom. Well she hasn't listened and I warned her the E36 M3 was going to hit the fan if she didn't stop (after plunging the toilet several times).

So apparently the downstairs bathroom was too far to go tonight and she got a wonderful surprise and I was the sorry sap that had to clean up the mess.

I'm really getting sick of this trend.

Because you cleaned up after her. Shoulda handed her the plunger and a bucket and said, "I warned you about that and I've cleaned up after you several times, this time you're on your own."

Then let her try for a bit until she either figures it out or gets frustrated and then go in and help her out.

Some people need to have the TV fall on them before they learn to not pull it off the TV tray, others take your word on it.

In reply to turboswede:

I guess that's true. I was already in the mess and frustrated, so I started cleaning up. Next time I'll leave it all on her.

because female. End of story.

SyntheticBlinkerFluid wrote: So I'm one of the unfortunate people that nobody ever listens to. I warn people of things or they come looking for advice, then they do the exact opposite, and then something negative happens. It's like I'm not trustworthy or something and this has been going on as long as I remember.

I get that too.

4cylndrfury wrote: because female. End of story.

4cylndrfury wrote: because female. End of story.

shiny happy person.

Lesley wrote:

4cylndrfury wrote: because female. End of story.

shiny happy person.

I was wondering if either you or ECM would see this first.

Well, Jesus Mary and Joseph in the berkeleying garden, it doesn't take a penis to know how to work a toilet. Mine has worked fine for years. Come to think of it, I don't know too many women who see E36 M3ting as a leisure activity, spending hours on the throne and then bragging about its weight and heft the way a lot of guys do.

SyntheticBlinkerFluid wrote: I warned her the E36 M3 was going to hit the fan if she didn't stop

This alone made the thread worth reading.

Lesley wrote: Well, Jesus Mary and Joseph in the berkeleying garden, it doesn't take a penis to know how to work a toilet. Mine has worked fine for years. Come to think of it, I don't know too many women who see E36 M3ting as a leisure activity, spending hours on the throne and then bragging about its weight and heft the way a lot of guys do.

I had a female roommate (well, girlfriends roommate and I was the only boyfriend that any of the 4 girls had who was in town, so I got to fix everything) who never could figure out that female hygiene products do NOT go down the toilet. How is it possible to be 21 and still doing that?

Lesley wrote: Well, Jesus Mary and Joseph in the berkeleying garden, it doesn't take a penis to know how to work a toilet. Mine has worked fine for years. Come to think of it, I don't know too many women who see E36 M3ting as a leisure activity, spending hours on the throne and then bragging about its weight and heft the way a lot of guys do.

Yes, but you're not like most women. You're intelligent, fairly logical and willing to listen. This is unfortunately not true for many women (and some men) that we encounter in a day. I do agree that discussing your bowel movement specifics with others who are not actively diagnosing or treating your bowels is not an appropriate topic to discuss.

mtn wrote:

Lesley wrote: Well, Jesus Mary and Joseph in the berkeleying garden, it doesn't take a penis to know how to work a toilet. Mine has worked fine for years. Come to think of it, I don't know too many women who see E36 M3ting as a leisure activity, spending hours on the throne and then bragging about its weight and heft the way a lot of guys do.

I had a female roommate (well, girlfriends roommate and I was the only boyfriend that any of the 4 girls had who was in town, so I got to fix everything) who never could figure out that female hygiene products do NOT go down the toilet. How is it possible to be 21 and still doing that?

Because parents aren't licensed or trained properly. If they were, they'd have properly instructed the young lady in the use of basic bathroom fixtures as well as basic home maintenance, just like they'd have taught any boys how to cook basic meals and clean up after themselves. The BS way some parents force supposed societal girl/boy norms on their children is just creating a bunch of co-dependent and useless human beings.

Honestly, by the time you're through high school you should be able to change a tire, check your vehicle's fluids, perform basic home maintenance and cleaning, do the laundry, iron your clothes and cook decent meals for yourself and others. You don't have to enjoy those activities or even be particularly good at them, but why can't so many people do them?

In reply to turboswede:

I think it's not so much a "because woman" thing than a "significant other" thing.

My ex-g/f is intelligent, fairly logical (she's a freakin' P.E.)and will listen to anyone but me.

Her kitchen sink was slow to drain pretty much since she bought the house in 2001. I told her repeatedly - do NOT pour grease drippings down the sink as that's not helping. "You don't know what the berk you're talking about... it's a vent issue."

Now the vent was an issue. When we ripped the kitchen apart, we found an old vent-valve (often against Code) buried in the wall. We ALSO found a 1 1/2" drain pipe that wrapped all the way around the kitchen and across the living room before it connected to the main drain. There was barely any pitch at all and in a couple of spots went UP. No wonder the thing drained like crap. Made worse if you're dumping liquid grease down the drain that has a chance to sit and solidify before reaching the main line...

Grrrr... not my problem now...

turboswede wrote: Because you cleaned up after her. Shoulda handed her the plunger and a bucket and said, "I warned you about that and I've cleaned up after you several times, this time you're on your own." Then let her try for a bit until she either figures it out or gets frustrated and then go in and help her out. Some people need to have the TV fall on them before they learn to not pull it off the TV tray, others take your word on it.

This was my exact thought.

This is also precisely why I don't help the wife do things like redecorate the interior, paint the walls, etc. We've lived in our house 4 years and the living room/dining room has been painted 4 times and the kitchen 3 times.

If I would help her, it would like be double those numbers.

In reply to SyntheticBlinkerFluid:

We had a few plugged toilet issues when the wife switched to a multiply paper. 1.3 gallon flush units, switched back to single ply, problem solved.

Ive plugged a few toilets in my day. Are we going to turn this into a picture thread?

Minus the chips and cilantro, NMNA........

z31maniac wrote: This is also precisely why I don't help the wife do things like redecorate the interior, paint the walls, etc. We've lived in our house 4 years and the living room/dining room has been painted 4 times and the kitchen 3 times.

I've been in my house for 21 years... I live alone.

The number of times rooms have been painted: 0

Lesley wrote: Well, Jesus Mary and Joseph in the berkeleying garden, it doesn't take a penis to know how to work a toilet.

Damn, that's hilarious!

Lesley wrote: Well, Jesus Mary and Joseph in the berkeleying garden, it doesn't take a penis to know how to work a toilet.

forgot to post "present company excluded"

4cylndrfury wrote:

Lesley wrote: Well, Jesus Mary and Joseph in the berkeleying garden, it doesn't take a penis to know how to work a toilet.

forgot to post "present company excluded"

Too late. I believe you are in the outhouse.

Lesley wrote:

4cylndrfury wrote: because female. End of story.

shiny happy person.

You do realize and revel in the fact that you're the exception that supports the rule, right?

clownkiller wrote: Minus the chips and cilantro, NMNA........

My friend, I can't tell you how much I applaud the lack of berkeleys given when you throw out a joke only two people will get.

Well played, sir.

z31maniac wrote:

turboswede wrote: Because you cleaned up after her. Shoulda handed her the plunger and a bucket and said, "I warned you about that and I've cleaned up after you several times, this time you're on your own." Then let her try for a bit until she either figures it out or gets frustrated and then go in and help her out. Some people need to have the TV fall on them before they learn to not pull it off the TV tray, others take your word on it.

This was my exact thought. This is also precisely why I don't help the wife do things like redecorate the interior, paint the walls, etc. We've lived in our house 4 years and the living room/dining room has been painted 4 times and the kitchen 3 times. If I would help her, it would like be double those numbers.

lol... the wife and I have the same understanding... if she had it her way she'd change the color of the walls as often as she changes her hair color