Words of wisdom?

Aside from the "RUN!" comments, etc.

I will be getting married in Vegas in a few weeks to my lady of almost 4 years. Thankfully she was interested in having a big ceremony either (never understood the point of those money wasters), so just the moms/dads are flying out to see and we will have a reception once it cools off.

She's put up with two BMW builds (and Auto ADD in general), a totalled R6 and the complications of Post-Concussion Syndrome from a track day at Hallett, and generally just seems to excellent at dealing with my "unique" personality.

What say ye peanut gallery? How do you keep a sane house?

What makes you think any of us have a "sane house"? Congratulations dude, sounds like you already won and you haven't even gotten to Vegas yet.

Just marry the girl and enjoy the next 60 or 70 years !

EastCoastMojo wrote: What makes you think any of us have a "sane house"?

That's your wise words, right there.

Ask yourself: Would I rather live with them, or without them?

If you can't imagine yourself without them, you've struck gold!

Communicate. Learn each other's "love language" (the way that the person feels most loved, such as words, gifts, touch, etc.) and make sure that you try to keep a steady flow of it to each other.

Admit that you're wrong when you're wrong.

Discuss the important things: houses, finances, children, faith. Do this BEFORE the wedding. Lots of marriages fail because they spend more time preparing for the wedding than preparing for the marriage.

scardeal wrote: Admit that you're wrong when you're wrong.

And sometimes when you're not

NYG95GA wrote:

EastCoastMojo wrote: What makes you think any of us have a "sane house"?

That's your wise words, right there. Ask yourself: Would I rather live *with* them, or *without* them? If you can't imagine yourself without them, you've struck *gold*!

That is key right there. If you truely fee that way everything else will work its self out. (Going on 18 years)

Here is some wedding planning advise.
You mentioned that it will not be a big affair and maybe this applies less but I suspect it still applies.
For the wedding planning you may be asked many questions. These could be questions like: bridesmaid dress colors, flower choices, etc. Likely these are thinks that do no much matter to you but you will be asked anyway.

An answer like, "I don't care", "you decide" or "whichever you like" may be what you are really thinking but do not let that be your answer!
Provide an answer and appear to be in the game. Ultimately, your answer will likely not be factored into the decision anyway but not playing along will be seen as non-commital or uncaring.

Z31maniac said: She's put up with two BMW builds (and Auto ADD in general), a totalled R6 and the complications of Post-Concussion Syndrome from a track day at Hallett, and generally just seems to excellent at dealing with my "unique" personality

Dude, she's been with the program for four years! You've done everything but the ceremony, what could you possibly surprise her with?

Congratulations.

If each of you always thinks a little - JUST A LITTLE more of the other person than yourself, you'll have a successful marriage.

HONESTY, a garage, luck and booze

Congrats...its a helluva ride

jrw1621 wrote: Here is some wedding planning advise. For the wedding planning you may be asked many questions. These could be questions like: bridesmaid dress colors, flower choices, etc. Likely these are thinks that do no much matter to you but you will be asked anyway. An answer like, "I don't care", "you decide" or "whichever you like" may be what you are really thinking but do not let that be your answer! Provide an answer and appear to be in the game. Ultimately, your answer will likely not be factored into the decision anyway but not playing along will be seen as non-commital or uncaring.

If I'm ever asked that, I'm going to ask for a checkered flag pattern, or maybe BMW Roundel polka-dots. Something so stupid and hideous that it will put me out of the question asking.

Actually, BMW polka dots would be pretty cool on bridesmaid dresses.

Don't stop dating her just because you're married. Never get used to it. It'll stay fun if you don't let it get customary.

Oh, and be sure to climb ladders wearing shorts and have your wife hold it steady for you at the bottom. Have a funny quip handy in case she sees your underpants and calls out a favorite childhood rhyme about them. See this thread for more on that.

I assume you already have your toys. Once you're married, it's too late.

Thanks for the well wishes and insight.

We have discussed all those important things, bought the house last year. And she knows where I stand on the other stuff.

slantvaliant wrote: I assume you already have your toys. Once you're married, it's too late.

This is the advantage of being with a woman who makes her own money, in fact, more than I do. As long as we are both holding up our end of the bargain when it comes to splitting things down the middle while adding to savings/retirement, she gets no say in what I spend my play money on just as I get no say in how many pairs of shoes she buys.

The other part of the deal is, I either get to play with cars, or she will come home to a Ducati 848 sitting in the garage. Refer to early posts in this thread on why she is against that.

I'd also advise you to have a financial game plan for emergency situations, eg tornado destroying everything, being laid off, etc.

slantvaliant wrote: I assume you already have your toys. Once you're married, it's too late.

Maybe in Lubbock, not my neighborhood.